Really, the first question should be, why should your husband flirt with other women, regardless of whether it is in your presence or not?
Many people usually say it’s just in the nature of men to flirt.
I take exception to such generalization because I know certain married men who don’t flirt with other women.
Some people also say, “If he flirts with other women and you don’t find out, it means he respects you”…
I also beg to differ with that.
Flirting with another woman when you have a wife is wrong, whether in her presence or not.
However, when a husband begins to flirt with other women in front of his wife, it may make other women thankful that their husbands don’t flirt in front of them.
If you are in this situation, I am sure you are confused and wondering what you did to deserve such disrespect.
The foremost question on your mind must be, “Why does my husband flirt with other women in front of me?”…
Come along with me as we attempt to answer your question and give you tips on handling the situation.
6 Reasons Your Husband Flirts With Other Women In Front Of You
1. He doesn’t respect you
This is the most obvious and common reason why husbands flirt with other women in front of you.
Many people don’t agree, but I say it’s the main reason your husband flirts with other women.
It is enough disrespect that he is flirting with other women.
Now, imagine the amount of disrespect it takes for a man to flirt with another woman right in front of his wife.
It takes a man to do such a thing, and it takes disrespect of outrageous proportions and audacity the size of Mount Everest.
It is a sign of total disregard for you.
I remember one time in school, I was asking this lady out.
I told her how I felt about her, but she thought I was only joking because I had a reputation for being unserious.
I wasn’t joking, but she didn’t know that for sure, so she said she would find out the truth from my actions.
I stopped flirting with other females, and whenever they spoke to me flirtatiously, I replied like a proper man would when he was in a relationship.
I made a great effort to convince her, but after all my efforts, she chose a guy with a car and money to spend.
Anyway, my point is that if I could control my flirtatious instincts just because of a girl I was wooing, your husband would have no real excuse for flirting around, especially right in front of you.
It is a sign that he doesn’t respect you, regardless of anything he attempts to say.
2. He thinks you are lucky to have him
Where I come from, it is mostly females that feel this way.
You would just randomly hear a lady telling her boyfriend that she is a big girl and he should feel lucky that she chose him out of the multitude of guys wooing her.
I have always resented that idea.
It is so condescending and disrespectful.
But that could be the reason your husband flirts with other women in front of you.
He feels like he is the best you can get, so you won’t want to lose him.
He also feels that other women need to taste his “awesomeness.”
It sounds funny, but it isn’t.
This level of delusion and narcissism could be hazardous.
He may be good-looking, wealthy, successful, charming, and just about everything you think Disney should have input in Prince Charming.
Because other women are falling over themselves to get a taste of him, he feels like you should feel lucky to have him.
So, even when he is disrespecting you by flirting with another woman in front of you, he expects you to satisfy yourself with the privilege of being called his wife.
Sadly, many women experience this same thing and consider themselves lucky to have such a husband.
Perish that idea, Queens!
He is the “less” you shouldn’t settle for!!
3. He believes you won’t leave him
Remember I mentioned that it takes immense audacity for a man to flirt with other women in front of his wife?
Well, I meant either that or confidence that she can’t leave him.
Now, you may be asking why your husband thinks you can’t leave him.
I don’t know why.
But if you have been married for a while and know he has been flirting with other women without reacting, it may give him the confidence to take it to the next level.
After all, if you don’t react to him flirting with other women, you probably don’t believe it is bad then.
This may be the reason why he does it in front of you.
There was this girl who used to be so obsessed with me.
In my defense, we never dated, and I never wooed her.
She would call me several times daily.
It got to the point that I couldn’t take it any longer.
I told her in plain terms that I don’t appreciate being called daily, but she didn’t understand.
Even when I started treating her terribly, she still stayed until I finally had to cut her off.
Perhaps your husband feels like you are obsessed with him, and he can get away with anything.
If he feels this way, it is probably the reason he flirts with other women in front of you.
He seems to be daring you to do your worst.
4. He wants to make you jealous
I always say a little bit of jealousy is healthy for your marriage.
However, I don’t endorse the act of intentionally trying to make your partner jealous.
It’s all shades of wrong, regardless of which perspective you look at it from.
Your husband could be flirting with other women in front of you to make you jealous.
I believe this action shows his insecurities.
One part of him possibly believed that you don’t love him.
By flirting with other women in front of you, he is trying to gauge your reaction to see if you will get jealous.
To him, getting jealous is an affirmation that you love him.
Of all the crude inventions invented by man, this is among the crudest.
Its accuracy is doubtful and brings no end to trouble for most people who try it.
“I want to make my wife jealous.”
Nonsense! What happened to making her happy?
5. He is unhappy in the marriage
Sometimes, flirting with other women in front of you may be a sign that your husband is unhappy in the marriage.
It could be his own terrible way of expressing his dissatisfaction with the relationship.
The fact that he is unhappy in the relationship doesn’t make it the proper thing to do.
Exploring proper communication channels in marriage is what is expected of couples.
After all, he is supposed to be mature.
Flirting with other women in front of your wife because you are unhappy in the marriage doesn’t reflect the level of maturity expected from a married man.
6. He is seeking your attention
When your husband flirts with other women in front of you, there is one other thing you must consider.
You need to consider the fact that your husband is seeking your attention.
Yes, he may be doing it in the most terrible way ever, but that may be why he is flirting with other women in front of you.
Struggling to cope with neglect in marriage can be very tough, especially when you have explored every other avenue to get your partner’s attention.
If a man is not getting enough attention from his wife, he may be forced to seek it elsewhere.
Flirting with other women in front of you may be his last desperate attempt to draw your attention to the fact that he feels neglected in the marriage.
Ultimately, there are several other reasons why husbands flirt with other women.
However, these are why he may do it right before you.
Now, I am sure you are thinking of what to do.
Do you confront him or not?
Do you decide to shock him and leave the relationship?
To help you with handling a husband who flirts with other women in front of you, here are some steps that you can take:
What To Do If Your Husband Flirts With Other Women In Front Of You
1. Remain calm
I am sure I don’t need to explain why you need to be calm.
Giving in to anger can be very destructive when dealing with marital issues.
You may not feel calm within, but ensure that you strike that poise of calm.
Be the perfect picture of calm when you attempt to talk to your husband about how you feel about his flirtatious behavior.
2. Communicate with him
You shouldn’t do this in public.
I know he flirted with another woman in public and embarrassed you.
But you shouldn’t attempt to speak to him in public.
It won’t help matters.
Employ the principle of effective communication and express your emotions.
Then, ask him why he flirts with other women in front of you.
This will help you get a better understanding of the problem.
3. Set clear boundaries
Boundaries for reasonable and acceptable conversations with the opposite sex should be set.
They should be clear enough for him to know when he is close to crossing the line again.
4. Address the underlying issue
If your husband is doing this to get your attention or because he feels neglected, you must address that issue.
Speak words of affirmation to him and spend quality time with him.
If it’s a respect issue, then you must make your husband realize that this cannot continue.
Mutual respect is needed for a relationship to thrive.
5. Practice self-love
If you believe you are obsessed with your husband, you need to practice self-love.
You need to learn to start loving yourself.
If you don’t love yourself, you will be treated like dirt and will still hold on to that person.
Please, learn to love yourself.
It’s not love when you act obsessively around someone.
You are a queen…act like it!!