Like Emery Allen, many people believe that some things are too strange to be coincidences.
I am one of those many people.
Think about the most fascinating love stories you have heard about how two people went through so many storms in life only to find their perfect match in some weird occurrence.
Then you will probably believe, just like I do, that some things are too strange to be coincidences.
If you believe, like me, that the universe fights hard to get soul mates together, then you should start believing that when the universe also wants you to stay away from someone.
It shows you signs that we call “red flags.”
We sometimes get so focused on how the universe brings people together that we don’t pay much attention to the fact that it also tries to save people from toxic relationships.
Are you ignoring the signs the universe wants you to stay away from someone?
Don’t worry; I will help you by curating a list of the signs the universe wants you to stay away from someone.
Here we go!
10 Signs The Universe Wants You To Stay Away From Someone
1. You just have this weird feeling around them
I believe that human intuition is our security alarm.
It informs us of friendships we need to form by instantly giving us this feeling of strong connection to a stranger.
It warns us of impending danger.
Just like that magical clock in the Weasley’s house in Harry Potter, it can sense when we are in “mortal peril.”
I have been in very uncomfortable situations that caused me a lot of distress, and a few minutes before I got into that situation, “something” actually told me not to go there.
That “something” is human intuition, and when your intuition tells you that you shouldn’t be around someone, you shouldn’t be around that person.
If you keep having this weird feeling of unrest around someone, you need to start considering that the universe wants you to stay away from that person.
The weird thing is that they may not be doing anything wrong to you, but if you constantly lose your peace when you come around someone, you may need to consider backing off.
The universe may just be trying to save you from some or a lot of heartache.
2. Something negative happens when you hang out with them or just shortly after
Like I said, some things may look like coincidences but sometimes they are not.
If you notice that every single time you hang out with someone, something negative happens right there or just shortly after, it may be a sign that the universe wants you to stay away from them.
Note that the emphasis is on the words “every single time.”
If it happened just once or twice out of the many times you have spent time together, you might actually classify it as a coincidence.
However, if it occurs every time, then there’s a problem somewhere.
I haven’t personally experienced this, but a friend once told me he was beginning to have second thoughts about his relationship.
According to him, something bad usually occurred every time they spent time together.
The last one that made him avoid her completely was when they had an accident on a motorcycle, and she didn’t have a scratch on her while he broke his arm.
I remember telling him he was just being superstitious.
Right now, I can’t say as confidently as I did that he was just being superstitious.
3. You feel negative emotions when you think about them
You remember I said something about red flags at the beginning of this article.
When you feel negative emotions like anger, frustration, or sadness at the thought of someone, it is not just a red flag; it’s a red billboard!
It is a sign that your relationship with that person doesn’t bring you happiness, especially if this happens most of the time.
Our emotions can change on a whim; however, they are not so fickle that we should ignore them, especially if they recur with just one person.
When the emotions someone triggers in you are mostly bad, then it is a sign that you should stay away from them.
The universe wants to surround you with people who can match your energy and help you improve, not people who will drag you down.
4. It is difficult to stay connected with them
It may just be a coincidence, or you may be someone like me who keeps his phone in silent mode all the time.
However, if you are not like me and you realize that you keep on missing each other’s calls.
Or you message them and it takes a long time for you to get a reply, you may need to start considering that the universe wants you to stay away from them.
It seems like there is this invisible obstacle blocking off your attempts at conversations and developing your connection.
In fact, you may find it easy to connect for some time, but just when you are about to get way above your head, the connection ceases.
You both find that you are struggling to maintain your connection, and there is no reasonable reason for this.
If this is the case, this may just be a sign the universe wants you to stay away from that particular person.
5. You may have strange dreams about them
Dreams remain a strange occurrence that science really has no concrete explanation for.
Why do I dream about something and it happens in the future if dreams are just a function of my subconscious mind?
Dreams are not only a function of the subconscious, but they may also serve as a medium through which the universe communicates with us.
Dreams can be pretty straightforward sometimes.
At other times, they are mysteries that are hard to decode.
However, regardless of how cryptic the dreams are, if you find yourself having strange dreams about someone, the universe may be trying to tell you something about them.
If you wake up from these dreams with a negative feeling about them, it may be a sign the universe wants you to stay away from them.
Except you feel like the negative feeling is not a sign meant for you but for them.
Dreams are very symbolic, and you need to pay attention to how you feel after the dream.
You could find a clue on what to do next in that feeling.
6. You feel like you are forcing the relationship
I am not one of those who believe in investing little effort in their relationships.
I believe that friendships require a lot of effort and investment.
However, it shouldn’t be one-sided.
The moment you realize that you seem to be the only one making efforts to build the relationship is a sign that you are in a relationship with yourself.
The other person exited a long time ago.
We sometimes try too hard to hold on to relationships without realizing that not all relationships are meant to last forever.
Some relationships are meant to last for a season, and when that season is over, the universe orchestrates ways to push you apart.
If you are still holding on to a relationship that’s a thing of the past, you will most likely feel like you are forcing the relationship.
It’s a sign that the universe wants you to let go of that person.
7. Life pulls you apart
Growing up, there was this Yoruba adage that said, “Twenty children can’t continue to play together for twenty years.”
It means you can’t continue to have the same circle of friends as you go through life.
My teacher once used my friends and me as an example.
We were so close in secondary school that we did everything together.
We sat in class, played, studied, and argued football together.
He said, “In the next ten years, we may not be friends anymore.”
A mere ten years after that statement, I only occasionally keep in touch with just one of them, and I don’t have the contacts for the others.
What happened?
Life is what happened.
We all moved on with our lives.
We made major decisions that put us in different states in the world.
If life brings up a major event in your life that may separate you from someone, it may just be the universe telling you to let go of them.
You may not understand it, but there may be greater forces at work in the background.
8. Your friends warn you about them
When the universe wants you to stay away from someone, your friends may be the source of the warning.
It is part of the job description of friends to look out for each other.
So, if your friends warn you about someone, it could be a sign that the universe wants you to avoid them.
A few years back, a female friend just asked me about a guy I know and said he had been asking her out.
She said she was starting to like him and wanted to know how I felt about him.
I told her she could do better than involve herself with him.
She asked me why I said so, and I told her to take me at my word.
She did, and she is forever grateful that she did.
Just a year later, this guy was exposed for dating three friends simultaneously.
Choi! (Nigerian exclamation)
You can imagine my friend’s joy because she listened to me and dodged dating a chronic cheat.
9. You feel drained after talking to them
Do you feel drained of energy every time you talk to them?
If your interactions with them usually leave you feeling drained or stressed, it may be a sign that you need to stay away from them.
Interactions with friends are supposed to be soul-lifting and inspiring, most of the time.
So, if you feel like this person drains you of every positive feeling, it may be a sign the universe wants you to stay away from them.
10. Your interactions with this person are forced on you
Now, I must start this with a little example from my life.
I have this “friend” that I am going through the unfriending process.
She makes me regret ever walking up to talk to her first.
There is no toxic behavior she hasn’t displayed in the few years of friendship we have been friends, and every single time I try to cut her off, she gets suicidal and depressed.
I am still talking to her because I don’t want to be the reason she commits suicide, but I am totally tired of the whole “friendship.”
Many of us are like this.
We are trapped in relationships with people just because we don’t want to be rude.
Hence, we keep interacting with people who are toxic to our existence.
If you think someone is forcing their way into your life, it may be a sign the universe wants you to stay away from them.
When you realize that you don’t want someone around you, you should tell them to stay away from you as firmly and politely as you can.
Doing this will save you a lot of headaches and heartaches.
Ultimately, something in the universe always looks out for us.
I believe that “something” is God, and heeding the signs to stay away from someone may be the best decision you ever make.