7 Signs He Wants You To Break Up With Him

Breaking up is hard!

But sometimes, it’s necessary.

When you’re in a relationship, you want to believe that the person you love will stick by your side no matter what.

You want to believe they’ll be there for you when things get tough or the going gets rough.

You want to know that they’ll be loyal and faithful.

But sometimes, even after all of that, things just don’t work out.

So how do you know if a guy wants you to break up with him?

If he’s fed up with the relationship, why can’t he break up with you?

Why is he leaving you to it?

While some people are naturally good at picking up on cues and figuring out what’s going on in a relationship, others might need a little help figuring out whether or not their partner is ready to move on.

Guys can tell you they want you to break up with them in many different ways.

Sometimes they’ll be obvious, and sometimes they’ll be pretty sneaky about it.

Here are some signs he might want you to end things:

 

7 Signs He Wants You To Break Up With Him

1. He becomes distant and avoids spending time with you

Spending time together is crucial to any relationship, as it allows couples to bond, create memories, and strengthen their connection.

If your guy seems to be avoiding spending time with you, if he’s suddenly not interested in hanging out or going on dates, he might be trying to tell you that he wants out.

That being said, there are a few exceptions:

-If he has a new job or another major commitment that keeps him busy and away from home, he may need more space in your relationship.

This doesn’t necessarily mean that he wants out.

-If he has been working late shifts or traveling for work lately, it can make him feel disconnected from home life and cause him to feel distant from you.

But if there isn’t any major change in his life/schedule and he has previously been affectionate and communicative, a sudden change in behavior is not normal.

 

2. Inconsistent communication

Communication is one of the most important things in a relationship, and if it starts to change, you need to pay attention.

When you’re dating someone, your conversations with them are the glue that holds your relationship together.

They’re how you stay connected and learn more about each other.

When communication becomes inconsistent, it’s a sign that something is wrong.

So if your guy is not returning calls, not responding to texts in a timely manner, not accepting your calls for days at a time, has started to text or call you less frequently than before, and never texted or called back when he promised he would, maybe he wants you to get the message that he’s no longer invested in the relationship. 

He wants to starve you of communication to frustrate you so that you can break up with him.

 

3. He brings up problems or issues frequently without trying to resolve them

Arguing is normal in any relationship but if your boyfriend keeps bringing up problems or issues frequently without trying to resolve them, he’s trying to get rid of you.

He may be hoping that by bringing up issues in a negative way and not trying to resolve them, you will be unhappy enough to call it quits.

It’s a way to get you to do the work of breaking up, so that he doesn’t have to take responsibility for his own feelings.

And as long as there are unresolved problems in your relationship, it will be impossible for either of you to move forward and build a good life together.

So, if you’re constantly having fights where he says things like “we need to talk,” but then refuses to actually talk about it, he has no plans to fix things.

 

4. He looks unhappy and bored whenever you’re together

Of course, you and your partner will not always be excited whenever you are together.

Life is not a bed of roses.

However, this shouldn’t always be the case.

So if your boyfriend looks unhappy and bored every time you’re together, he may no longer be invested in the relationship and wants you to see it without telling you.

This type of behavior can lead to a negative and tense atmosphere between the two of you, and over time, it can completely break down the relationship.

But it’s not just about the relationship.

Being in a relationship with someone who’s unhappy and disinterested can also take a toll on your own emotions.

You might start feeling unappreciated, unloved, and just not good enough.

And who wants to feel that way?

You might eventually get tired of being drained and break up with him, which is exactly what he wants.

 

5. He becomes uninterested in activities or things he once enjoyed with you

One of the joys of being in a relationship is doing things together with the one you love.

What activities do you enjoy doing with your boyfriend?

Cooking together, going on dates, watching and analyzing movies, trying new restaurants, going to the gym, hiking, cycling etc. 

When last did you do those things together?

You can’t remember?

Maybe all you remember are the mountain of excuses he gives for not being available for the activities you both used to enjoy doing together.

Well, he might be withdrawing from the relationship, hoping that you’ll get it.

 

6. He starts looking for ways to pick fights or argue with you

Like I said earlier, there will be times when you and your partner disagree—or even fight.

But if there’s one thing that can be a clear sign he wants you to break up with him, it’s when he starts looking for ways to pick fights or argue with you.

When a man is trying to end a relationship, he will often try to provoke an argument in order to prove that he can’t have a healthy relationship with you.

So if he’s really looking for a reason to end things, he’ll find one—even if it means making up problems that don’t exist and blaming them on you.

He wants you to break up with him out of frustration.

 

7. He starts flirting or showing interest in other people

Flirting with others is the ultimate sign that he wants you to break up with him, because it shows that he’s ready to move on from you.

If he really wanted to be with you, why would he be hitting on other people?

If he’s openly flirting with others, it shows he no longer respects you or care about your feelings.

 

What do you do?

Talk to him.

Ask him if he still wants to be in a relationship with you and if he’s not, you can take it.  

He needs to be honest about his intentions toward you and not waste your time or play mind games with you.

If he refuses to be open and honest with you, well, the ball is in your court.