Nothing is as frustrating as loving a guy who doesn’t want a relationship with you.
Love is beautiful, but only when the feelings are mutual.
Anyone who has been a victim of unrequited love would say it’s one of life’s worst experiences.
Maybe you’re in the talking stage with a guy, and you are unsure if he’s interested in a relationship with you.
Keep reading to know the signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you
It’s better to know sooner rather than later if this is the case, so you can move on and find someone who wants you in his life.
Here are signs a guy doesn’t want a relationship with you.
8 Signs He Doesn’t Want a Relationship With You
1. He doesn’t initiate contact or communication with you
One clear sign that a guy doesn’t want a relationship with you is if he rarely initiates communication or makes plans with you.
Maybe you’ve been seeing each other for months, and you enjoy spending time with him.
However, he never initiates contact or makes plans with you.
You find yourself constantly texting him and suggesting ideas for things to do, but he rarely takes the lead.
This lack of initiative on his part shows that he’s not as interested in a relationship with you as you are with him.
The way a person treats you is the way they feel about you.
Everyone knows that communication is one of the pillars of a relationship, and if a guy doesn’t keep in touch with you or ghosts you—he disappears and comes back whenever he wants, then he doesn’t want to pursue a relationship with you.
2. He’s emotionally unavailable
Okay, let’s suppose he communicates with you and takes the lead in making plans.
Is he emotionally available?
Because a guy can be spending time with you yet not be emotionally available for you.
Guys don’t have a reputation for opening up, and it could take a while for them to be vulnerable.
However, a guy who wants to have a relationship with you will take a chance on you.
Because he understands there’s no way he can have a relationship with you if he’s not ready to connect with you emotionally.
Some signs that a guy may be emotionally unavailable include:
- Avoiding conversations about feelings or emotional topics
- Not being able to express his own feelings or emotions
- Shutting down or becoming distant during emotionally charged situations
- Struggling with vulnerability or opening up to others
If he exhibits these behaviors, he’s not ready or interested in a relationship with you.
3. He keeps you away from his family and friends
Everyone has different comfort levels when it comes to introducing partners to their friends and family.
Some people may prefer to take things slow and wait until they are more serious before making introductions, while others may be more open and comfortable with introductions from the beginning.
If you’ve been with this guy for a while and he’s consistently avoiding introducing you to people that matter in his life, you should be concerned.
Introduction to loved ones is usually an investment in the relationship and a desire to integrate you into his life, and if he’s not willing to do that, maybe your position in his life is not permanent.
4. He only sees you for his own benefit
If he appears to be interested in you whenever he wants something from you, that’s the sign right there that he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
He’s only using you for his gain and what you have to offer him.
This can manifest in a number of ways, such as using you for emotional support, physical intimacy, a place to crash, or financial gain.
If you feel like your partner is only with you because of what he can get from you, it’s a clear sign that he’s not interested in a meaningful relationship with you.
5. He doesn’t show genuine interest in your life and your plans
When you’re interested in pursuing a relationship with someone, you’ll show interest in them and their plans.
You want to know them better—what makes them tick, their interests and hobbies, their family, what they do, their dreams and aspirations, etc.
I understand that people have different communication styles and ways of expressing their interest in others.
Some people may be more introverted and less inclined to ask a lot of questions or express a lot of enthusiasm, but that does not mean a guy who is interested in you should be apathetic toward knowing you.
I’m introverted too, but when I’m in love, I become ambiverted.
Well, I’m married now, and my husband tells me I talk too much sometimes.
My very introverted self?
Anyways, enough about me.
All I’m saying is that someone who wants a relationship with you will be interested in knowing you more because you make them curious.
6. He flirts with other women
Flirting is a way of showing interest in someone else and testing the waters to see if there is mutual attraction or interest.
If your guy is flirting with other women, and you can see it, he definitely doesn’t want a relationship with you.
Otherwise, why would he ruin his chances with you by flirting with other women?
7. He’s afraid of commitment
It’s no news that the fear of commitment from men is one of the problems modern women face in the dating world.
Men are afraid of commitment for a variety of reasons, such as past experiences, fear of being vulnerable, or a desire to maintain independence and freedom.
If your guy is afraid of commitment, he will struggle with making long-term plans, expressing his feelings, or fully opening up to you.
You know he’s not all in with you, even though you give all of yourself to him.
He can’t give you the relationship that you desire and deserve, and you see it.
8. He hasn’t asked you to be his girlfriend
In other words, you are not officially dating.
It’s okay for people to take their time getting to know their partner before committing to a relationship.
But if you have been seeing each other for a significant amount of time and he has not made any indication that he wants to take the next step, he surely doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you.
So, you guys might be unofficially dating, aka in a situationship.
You don’t know what you are to him and what he is to you.
You can’t call him your boyfriend, and he’s not calling you his girlfriend, either.
Yet you’re doing couple things together.
This is a sure path to heartbreak.
If you’re experiencing these signs, communicate with him about your feelings and concerns.
You need to know where you stand with him so you won’t be trapped in an undefined relationship.
I know asking a guy about his intentions might make you seem like you’re desperate, but you’re not.
This is especially true if you’ve been talking for a while and expect your relationship to progress.
You’re a mature woman who knows what she wants and doesn’t have time to waste.
Find out what he wants from you.
Better to know early than to keep guessing.
All the best.