1. What’s his attitude towards marriage?
First and foremost, pay attention to how he talks about marriage in general.
Does he bring up the topic with enthusiasm and excitement, does he seem disinterested, or even resistant to the idea?
Does he have positive things to say about marriage or he gives you a long list of marriages that have ended in bitter divorces?
Does he tell you you don’t need marriage to be happy together or have a committed relationship?
If he doesn’t have pleasant things to say about marriage, for whatever reason, he’s never going to marry you.
2. He’s a chronic commitment-phobe
If your boyfriend has a history of avoiding commitment or has never been in a long-term relationship, he might be a commitment-phobe.
He’s just not ready to give up his freedom or his single life.
After all, why would anyone want to give up their sweet bachelor pad and all that “me” time for the ball and chain of marriage?
Don’t hold your breath waiting for a proposal from someone who’s allergic to commitment – it’s just not going to happen.
3. How committed is he to your relationship?
What’s his level of commitment to your relationship?
If he’s lukewarm about your relationship and doesn’t seem fully invested in making it work, it’s unlikely that he’ll be ready to take the next step and get married.
On the other hand, if he’s fully committed to the relationship, constantly shows you love and support, and makes you a priority, he may be more open to the idea of getting married to you.
Because he wouldn’t want to lose you.
A guy who doesn’t treat you like you’re special to him doesn’t care about losing you—and definitely doesn’t plan to keep you in his life forever.
4. He’s not ready for the responsibilities of marriage
Marriage is a big commitment!
Trust me, I’ve been married for five years and it’s not all roses and sunshine.
It’s tough and you just have to keep showing up every day and commit to making it work.
If your boyfriend isn’t ready to handle the responsibilities that come with marriage, he’s not going to pop the question anytime soon.
Whether he’s struggling with financial instability, personal issues, or simply doesn’t feel mature enough to handle the commitment, if he’s not ready to take on the responsibilities of marriage, forget about becoming his Mrs.
Even if he marries you for whatever reason, he’ll only be a liability for you.
5. He’s not ready to give up his bachelor pad
If he’s still living the bachelor life and seems attached to his single living space, he’s not ready to say goodbye to his man cave and all those sweet, sweet video game marathons.
Bro is surely enjoying his single life and doesn’t want to be tied down or lose his freedom.
If he doesn’t make space for a wife or couple living, marriage is definitely far from his mind.
6. All his friends are single
“Show me your friends and I’ll tell you who you are.”
This can’t be truer in this situation.
If all of your boyfriend’s friends are single and are serial daters, why do you think your boyfriend is any different from them?
You may say this doesn’t matter but it’s worth considering as one potential factor in his overall readiness for marriage.
There are basically two reasons why your boyfriend’s social circle being comprised primarily of single people could be a sign that he’s not ready to get married:
1. He’s not ready to settle down and is more interested in enjoying the single life with his friends.
If all of his friends are single and enjoying the freedom and independence that comes with being single, it’s possible that he’ll want to continue living that lifestyle himself rather than committing to marriage.
2. If all of his friends are single and he doesn’t have any married couples to look up to or emulate, he’ll be less likely to pursue marriage himself.