Love is a beautiful thing; it’s beautiful to love and be loved.
To be in love and want to go all out to have that person all to yourself usually happens through marriage.
Life is full of uncertainties, and having someone to face these uncertainties with you is one of the beauties of marriage.
However, what’s supposed to be a beauty might become a nightmare if you don’t make the right choice.
Because it’s not just about getting married but getting married to the right person.
Perhaps the commonest question people ask when it comes to dating is – how do I know the right person, how do I find the right person or how do I know if someone is right for me?
The answer to this question depends on many factors and varies from person to person because we are different people with different needs and expectations.
However, I hope you learn from my answer and receive some insights that will help you to arrive at your own answer.
A little information about me – I got married in my mid-thirties and I didn’t really have a long term relationship with any woman.
I just couldn’t find THE ONE!
But when I met my wife, I knew my search had come to an end. I knew I’d found THE ONE.
No, she wasn’t perfect. She didn’t meet ALL my requirements but she met 85% of them, and that was more than enough for me.
It’s unrealistic to think you’ll find someone who will meet 100% of the qualities you desire in a partner.
What did I see in her that made me conclude she’s THE ONE? Why did I choose her?
Below are the TEN reasons why I chose my wife:
1. She’s a woman of value
For life and love to be meaningful, value must be added.
My wife is educated, talented, goal-oriented, creative, and knows what she wants from life.
She had a life of her own when I met her and I wanted to be a part of her life.
Her whole life wasn’t revolved around me or our relationship. So, she didn’t choke me with herself and attention.
They say kind begets kind. I chose my wife because she is a woman of value. She added value to herself, just like she loves to add value wherever she is, and I love to add value wherever I am as well.
2. She is very intelligent
I’m sapiosexual, so intelligence is a huge turn on for me.
Even though her looks attracted me, I was more turned on by her intelligence.
I can not marry someone who is not smart because it just wouldn’t work.
I wanted someone I could hold intelligent conversations with, someone I could learn from, who could also learn from me.
With my wife, I never run out of things to talk about. She challenges me intellectually.
Life is so much fun with her!
3. We believe in the same God and we have the same faith
I’m a Christian, and my faith is one of the most important things in my life. So, I can’t marry someone I’m not spiritually compatible with.
If your faith is not important to you, no matter your religious affiliation, this might not be a big deal to you because there are happily married couples who practise different religions.
I chose my wife because she is a Christian like me and we can both be on the same page when it comes to matters relating to faith and spirituality.
4. She is someone I can trust
Trust is one of the most important ingredients of a successful union.
A marriage without trust is like a car without gas, it’ll lead nowhere.
I married her because, I don’t only trust her opinions and motives, I trust her with my life and my children, but not my finances (yet).
Yes, she’s more of a spender than a saver. She actually trusts me with her own money because I’m more financially responsible.
5. She is someone I can disagree to agree with
Disagreements are very normal in every relationship, however, managing and resolving them is the most important thing.
My wife and I can disagree on anything and we agree on ways to resolve our issues.
I love the fact that she’s not afraid to argue with me on anything.
I’m also confident in her ability to point out my wrongs to me, especially when I’m blind to them. I love that I can listen to my wife and make adjustments where necessary because I trust her judgement.
I can’t marry a woman I can’t listen to.
6. We want the same things
When you and your partner are in agreement about what you want in the future for yourselves and your marriage, then you are headed in the right direction.
For example, if you’re on the same page about kids, where to settle, how to run your family etc., you’ll be able to set goals on how to achieve them.
My wife and I want the same things, so it makes us compatible.
7. We support each other’s dreams/goals/passion
She loves and supports what I do as much as I support what she loves doing as well.
This makes us each other’s best supporters and number one fan.
You can’t afford to marry someone who is not supportive of what you love doing except your passion is not a big deal to you.
8. She’s kind
If you want to know the real person you’re dating, observe how they treat others.
My wife’s kindness to others inspires me and challenges me.
I also know that if she’s kind to others, she’ll be kind to me
9. She loves me and cares about me
It’s popularly believed that men want respect and women need love. But men are human beings too who desire to be loved.
My wife genuinely loves and cares for me, and I really appreciate that.
10. I truly like and love her
Although my wife possesses some qualities that I find attractive, I also like her as a friend and love her as a romantic partner.
I can’t marry someone I don’t like and love. You shouldn’t too.
To find your missing rib, you need to know what you want. This will help you to determine who you need.
Like me, I hope you find the right person for you.