Have you ever wondered if a guy is genuinely into you or if he’s just looking for a fling?
The truth is sometimes, men don’t want to admit they’re interested in something more than just a casual relationship.
They don’t want to be seen as desperate, and they don’t want to scare you off by letting on that they want more than sex. So what do you do if you suspect a guy has deeper feelings for you than he’s letting on?
How do you know if he’s not just looking to get into your pants?
Here are some signs he wants more than a fling with you:
10 Signs He Wants More Than a Fling With You
1. He talks about the future with you
Men only interested in casual relationships don’t usually talk about the future very much because they know it won’t last long.
But a guy who talks about the future in terms of “us” instead of “me” is likely interested in something more than just a fling with you.
And if he asks about your plans and goals, girl, he wants to see if they align with his plans.
When my partner was asking me out, he asked about my plans and when I’d like to get married.
Ask married women—they’ll share similar experiences with you.
Men who know what they want don’t beat around the bush.
They are not confused about what they want from life and relationships.
They know what they want, and when they see it, oh, they’re unapologetic about it.
They might even come off as a little desperate.
Guys just looking for a hookup only pursue you until they get what they want—you naked in their, your, or any bed!
2. He wants to know what’s on your mind
When a guy is just looking for a casual relationship, he’s typically not invested in understanding you on a deeper level.
However, if a guy wants to know what’s on your mind, it means he is genuinely interested in getting to know you and what makes you tick.
He wants to understand your thoughts, feelings, and experiences and connect with you.
Only a guy who wants more than a fling will do this.
3. He touches you in a way that’s not sexual at all, but just sweet and thoughtful
Touching is one of the most powerful tools in a relationship.
It’s how we show affection, interest, and even our attraction to someone.
And as you probably already know, if a guy is touching you in a way that’s not sexual at all—but just sweet and thoughtful—it could mean he wants more than just a fling with you.
The key here is that his touch is about more than sex.
A guy who just wants to have sex with you isn’t going to hold your hand or touch your arm when he talks to you.
Instead, he’ll touch you in a way that is sexual and might even make you uncomfortable.
But if he touches you in a way that is less than sexual but still shows affection, he wants more.
4. He wants to spend time with you
One of the signs a guy wants more than a fling with you is that he wants to spend time with you.
This is true because guys looking for something casual tend to spend less time with the girl they’re seeing.
They don’t want to invest in a relationship, so they don’t spend much time on it.
You might think that spending time together isn’t enough evidence of his interest in more than just a fling—but it really is.
Spending time together gives people interested in each other the opportunity to get closer while also learning more about each other’s interests and values.
If a guy doesn’t want to spend (nonsexual) time with you, what does that say about his intention?
5. He’s consistent
Think of consistency like your morning cup of coffee.
I’m a huge coffee lover, by the way.
You don’t want your coffee to be hot and delicious one day and then cold and bitter the next.
You want it to be consistently good every time you take a sip.
The same goes for a guy interested in more than a fling.
He will consistently show up, be present, and be interested in you.
He won’t confuse you with lukewarm behavior or mixed signals.
He won’t play hot-and-cold with you, where he’s super interested one day and then distant the next.
This is the behavior of someone looking for something more stable.
6. He makes plans with you that don’t involve sex
A guy who wants more than a fling with you will make plans that do not involve sex.
He may want to take you out on a date, see a movie, hang out at his place and play video games, but regardless of what he’s suggesting, it’s important that he doesn’t try to include sex in the plans.
This is because a guy who is looking for something casual will be more likely to include sex as part of the date (or whatever else he is suggesting).
If he’s looking for something more serious, he won’t feel comfortable including sex into his plans because he knows that having sex before an official relationship could make things complicated.
So if your guy makes plans without including sex—even if those plans seem boring—he likely has good intentions toward you.
7. He communicates regularly
Communication is crucial in any relationship, and it’s especially important when you’re trying to figure out if a guy wants more than just a fling with you.
When a guy is interested in a casual fling, he may not feel the need to communicate with you regularly or try to keep in touch.
However, if he’s interested in more than just a fling, he will want to get to know you better and will make an effort to communicate with you regularly.
This can take the form of text messages, phone calls, chats on social media, or even in-person conversations.
Regular communication shows that he’s interested in you and cares about building a deeper connection with you.
Communication is also important because it helps to establish expectations and boundaries in the relationship.
By talking openly and honestly about your feelings and goals, he can ensure that you’re both on the same page about what you want from each other.
8. He asks for your advice about his life
This is a big one.
It’s a sign that he sees you as someone he can confide in, not just someone to make out with.
If he asks for your advice about his life, he trusts you and wants to be with you.
9. He introduces you to his friends and family
Of course, not everyone is close to their family or has a large social circle, so the way a guy introduces you to his friends and family may vary.
He may invite you to a family dinner or introduce you to his best friend.
The important thing is that he’s trying to integrate you into his life and share you with the people he cares about.
It shows that he’s proud to be with you and wants to show you off to the people he cares about.
This is a big step in any relationship, as it demonstrates commitment and seriousness.
10. He tells you he wants more
The most obvious sign that a guy wants more than just a fling with you is if he tells you directly.
It’s the most important sign that relieves you from every assumption about his intention.
A real man who knows what he wants and wants more than just a fling with you will be confident to discuss his relationship goals and expectations with you.
It also shows that he’s not afraid to be vulnerable and express his feelings, which is a good sign of emotional maturity and readiness for a committed relationship.
This is my kind of man.
I love men who know what they want and are unashamed about it.
You see, those who play games or are not sure what they want, I want nothing to do with them.
As a woman, it doesn’t matter what a man wants with you.
What’s most important is what you want.
If you want the same things, even if it’s a casual relationship, there won’t be any problems; because you will be on the same page.
But if you want something stable, serious, and committed, and he wants a fling, it can’t work.