I haven’t met a lady who says she likes to attract low-quality men, but it happens.
If you have been attracting men with no job, little ambition, or ones who will not commit to a long-term relationship, then something is off.
And you need to find out why.
You need to know why you’ve been
Here are some possible reasons why:
8 Reasons You Attract Low-Quality Men
#1 You have low self-esteem
If you don’t think you deserve the best, chances are that’s what you will get.
The law of attraction states that you will attract what you believe in.
It’s as simple as that.
If you have low self-esteem, it will be difficult to attract the kind of man you want.
In fact, low self-esteem leads to a lack of confidence and a fear of rejection, making it hard to put yourself out there and meet new people.
And when you eventually put yourself out there, you’ll likely settle for less than what you deserve in relationships.
When you don’t think highly of yourself, you will accept poor treatment from men or stay in relationships that don’t make you happy.
#2 You are overly desperate
If you are desperate for a man, you will often accept anything that comes your way and be willing to compromise on what you deserve.
You will also appear desperate when you start pursuing men more than they pursue you or if you don’t give them enough space.
I understand the loneliness is hard to bear, but being desperate will only force high-quality men away from you and bring the low-class ones into your life.
#3 You are too picky
On the other hand, if you’re too picky about men, then you might be missing out on some great opportunities.
It is good to have standards and not settle for anything less than what you want, but it also makes sense that you are open to the possibility of meeting a great guy who might not meet all your criteria.
Balance is key; you should be willing to give a chance to someone that may not have all the qualities you want as long as he has some of the important ones.
#4 You don’t have enough self-awareness
Self-awareness is essential in relationships.
Knowing who you are and what you want allows you to make smarter decisions when it comes to men.
When you lack self-awareness, you often settle for less than you deserve because you don’t know your worth or what kind of man would be a good fit for you.
So, think about it, do you know yourself well enough?
Are you aware of what you want in a relationship?
Are you clear about your boundaries and standards?
If not, then it’s time to do some self-reflection and start gaining insight into who you really are.
Once you know this, you will be better equipped to make healthier choices when it comes to the kind of man you want.
#5 You don’t take the time to know a guy before getting involved with them emotionally or physically
Another reason you may be attracting low-quality men is that you don’t take the time to get to know a guy before getting involved with them emotionally or physically.
Maybe you are too impatient and want things to happen quickly.
Or maybe you’re scared that if you wait too long, he will lose interest and move on.
Whatever the reason, taking your time to know a guy mentally and emotionally before getting physical with him will help you decide whether he’s worth your time or not.
You’ll be able to take note of his values, beliefs, and overall character to ensure they align with yours.
And if they don’t, your self-esteem will help you to get rid of him before you get in too deep.
#6 You’re too trusting and don’t recognize red flags
The saying, “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me,” rings true here.
Sometimes we’re too quick to trust and ignore the signs of a low-quality guy.
I’m not saying you should be unnecessarily suspicious, but rather to be aware of any red flags that come up.
These could include things like him not respecting your boundaries or showing signs of disrespect.
Listen closely when he talks and notice if he says anything demeaning about you or others.
Or just observe if he shows signs of things you don’t want in a partner.
#7 You’re looking for someone to complete you instead of finding someone who complements you
Who may wonder, ”What’s wrong with desiring someone who completes me?”
Theoretically, this could work if both people are willing to compromise and put in the effort.
But often, a relationship can become one-sided, where one partner expects the other to “complete” them at all times.
And this can be why you attract low-class guys because you are looking for someone to “fix” your life.
So instead of this, try to find someone who is willing to compromise and build a healthy relationship with you – one that’s based on mutual respect, understanding, and cooperation.
#8 You focus on superficial qualities
Focusing on superficial qualities like looks, money, or status instead of looking for someone with character traits that make them a good partner, such as loyalty, honesty, respect, kindness, etc., can cause you to attract the wrong kind of man.
Am I saying looks aren’t important?
By all means, be with someone you are physically attracted to.
I’m saying that it’s important not to make superficial qualities like these your only criteria for choosing a partner.
Instead, look deeper at the person’s values and beliefs and how they match yours before making a decision.
Consider things like lifestyle choices, career goals, and family dynamics.
If you are focused on superficially attractive qualities, you may find yourself in a relationship with someone that isn’t right for you.
But you’ll be unable to break free from them because they have qualities that you find attractive.
Take time to get to know someone and look at the whole picture.
You can still be attracted to them but have realistic expectations of what they can offer you in the long run.
That way, you’ll be able to decide who is right for you and who isn’t.
I hope this post helps!